October 2007

I received several interesting emails from the girlfriend who treated us so badly in court (see below). First and foremost, she wanted to apologize for not believing me and the information I provided regarding Randell and what he did to my girls. In consequential emails she related a variety of things that she "wrote off" and / or believed his lies about, in regard toward his interest in barely legal and teen porn sites (he told her they were "pop-ups" that just appeared and he "couldn't get rid of them") among other things. Interestingly enough, this began shortly after Randell was released from probation. This continued to the point that he left her for a barely 20 year old girl that he worked with / met at McDonald's where he is a night manager and consequently married her shortly thereafter.

Surely I am not the only one that is seeing a marked movement toward pedophilia that is staying just barely this side of legal.

Unfortunately, this child bride is so smitten with her new husband that once again, anything that is said against him has to be a lie. I am sure she is positive that his prison time was a mistake with the system helped along by yours truly (as was once believed by the previous girlfriend who now realizes the truth). What is terrifying is that she has a beautiful little neice who appears to be around three years old - just the age Erica and Ashley were when Randell started raping them.

How I pray that she is never alone with him and / or that she is not allowed to "wrestle" with him or "sit on his lap cuddling" or the mirad of other grooming techniques that Randell so effectively used on my girls.

How I wish that sentencing was as strict in 1994 as it is now in that he would be serving life rather than being out in the community in the process of destroying more lives.

January 16, 2006

Over the course of the last several months the lines between Randell Lane Abernathy the Convicted Child Molester and Randell Lane Abernathy the Child Support Deadbeat have become very blurred on this page.

What began as a page to warn people living in the Swansea (St. Clair County) area about an unreformed pedophile living there has become an almost day to day compilation of my attempts to collect child support.

Therefore, in the interests of returning this page back to its original objective I will be creating a Child Support Enforcement section on my website which will have all the "drama" that has heretofore taken place here.

I will update the main page and also the navigation bar of this site when that area is completed.

November 13, 2005

I created a poster to place around the area in hopes that the other girls Randell molested that summer and fall of 1993 will finally come forward and disclose what happened to them.

I am so very thankful that Illinois has a new law that allows for children of abuse to come forward after they are adults and not be told that the statute of limitations ran out when they turned 18. By rights, child sexual abuse should be like murder with no statute of limitations. However, ten years past their 18th birthday at least allows for them to become adults who realize that they were abused, who realize the ramifications of their abuse and who realize that the only way to stop the cycle of abuse from continuing on to other children is to come forward and disclose what happened to them.

As always, if you are a victim of abuse of any kind or know someone who is being abused, contact your local police department or the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-CHILD or (1-800-422-4453).

November 4, 2005

I've noticed something quite interesting in the past few weeks. For over 7 years I have heard nothing from Randell's side of the family with the exception of his half-brother Quinton, with whom I share genealogy research with.

Then, ironically enough, that all changes...on September 30, 2005.

Hmmmm...now why does that date sounds familiar?????

First there is the post here from "Paula" (no valid email address), moving on to all sorts of abusive posts on my genealogy pages at one of the genealogy sites (again no valid email addresses) and finally to an email from his sister Wanda asking ME to "knock it off" in regard to a issue she had with a genealogical note in Barney Abernathy's file. Going as far to say that she had retained an attorney and he told her to "ask me nicely". (At least this email had a valid address.)

Now this is on top of someone posing as a former single mom group member that wanted to get back in touch with me via my Yahoo Messenger but when I pressed "her" for further information (e.g., which group, etc.) "she" never responded. Oh yes, we can't forget the other person that wanted to add me to their "buddy list" who used the same bogus hotmail address that was left on many of the abusive genealogy posts. (Hello??? Do they think I am a stupid person? Or do they just believe that everyone is as dumb as they are?)

Now I haven't actively worked on my genealogy since before Dad passed away a year ago. The genealogy that I do have has been posted since at least then. So I am left with two rather interesting questions...

1. Why is it that his entire family seems to be crawling out of the woodwork especially when Wanda swears up and down she rarely talks to her Mother or Brother because quote: "We have found it is much easier to stay away from family as it is always trouble."?

2. Why did all this start happing after September 30, 2005?

OH WAIT!!!

I KNOW!!!

I DARED TO PUSH THE ISSUE ON CHILD SUPPORT and SEPTEMBER 30, 2005 is the day RANDELL GOT INTO TROUBLE!!!!

Bad Teri...Bad Bad Teri. How dare you do something for your kids!

Please...somebody shoot me...I don't deserve to live!

- NOT -

Gads, I wish instead of "loving" Randell, Big Fat Bubba would have squashed him instead. Social Security for the kids would have been a heck of a lot easier to collect and they would have received more money! (Because afterall, everything I did/do was/is about money...right?!?!?!?)

I wish someone would just explain to the boy that if he would just pay it, like he is supposed to, he wouldn't get into trouble and the amount wouldn't keep going up. Hello! You don't have to be a rocket scientist to figure that one out.

But then again we ARE talking about the idiot who came to court asking the arbitrator to have me show him "proof" of the bills that were used to determine what he was suppposed to pay per our divorce decree. The arbitrator looked at him and said, you didn't show up for the divorce hearing, you can't contest it now. DUH!

October 7, 2005

I had an interesting (read very scarey) conversation with Randell's therapist and discovered that not only did he (and the parole officer) know nothing about Randell's child support obligations, but the therapist had no clue that Randell raped his own children!

Randell has been in court mandated therapy since his parole in October 2003 (two years) and not ONCE did any one figure out he raped his own children???? Are these therapists given no documentation on the people they are treating?

IF part of the treatment is for Randell to admit what he did and take responsibility for it...I think it is very telling that after 2 years in therapy he STILL hasn't done it. But then this goes right along with the fact that he is still denying it to everyone who will listen.

Needless to say, I let the therapist know exactly what happened and directed him to the documentation online and expressed my deep concerns about Randell's actions. I also let him know that *I* knew that pedophile were never "rehabilitated or cured" and when combined with the fact that he was still denying his actions he was more than likely grooming his future if not current victims already.

His therapist asked me if I was college educated and/or a social worker! HA! I told him no, but that I had been working with victims and mothers of victims for the last 7 years and had done research on the subject and I just knew my "stuff".

In any other court ordered/mandatated counseling the therapist has the file on the attendee. WHY THEN DID THIS THERAPIST NOT HAVE ANY INFORMATION ON WHAT HE DID OTHER THAN "SEXUAL ASSAULT"???

One more reason why having this portion of the website up there for all to see is so important!

October 1, 2005

On September 30, 2005 at 09:58:05 AM I received a message in my guest book from a lady named Paula. Since Paula didn't leave her email address I am choosing to repost her message here along with my response.

Nice website......but you say Randy is "guilty". I know Randy and "his female campaion" personally and love them both very deeply. AND FULLY TRUST MY CHILDREN WITH THEM. You care nothing about ruining someone, and not letting them try to move on and making thier lives better. I feel your website is slander. I have goten Randy's side of the story and can understand why he admitted to it. You feel to post this info, but only give your side. I can understand the child support thing. But what will you get if he goes back to jail. Not a dime. You are hurting your children. I know how woman can be and be vendictive, and I feel that is all you are being. A woman that posts this stuff and pics and info of thier children online, that is completely wrong. Rather you have lied about this or not, Randy's children will realize someday, and make thier own decisions. So as you continue to destroy Randy and his "Female campanion" we fight to keep it up, and pray to god that someday the slander will stop and you will let them be. I hope you gain everything you want from this. Think about if you were trying to make a new life and then this comes up and you put thier address and number on here so they can get phone calls and wierd vistors. I think you should grow up and get alife and stop rying to destroy others.

Thank you

Dear Paula,

You have several points in your message that I would like to address one at a time if I may although not particularly in order.

You noted that you "know, love and trust Randell".

I can understand that you believe that you know Randell and love and trust him completely. I did too. I loved him enough to marry him, allow him to adopt Erica and to have Ashley and Samantha with him. I trusted him to love and care for my children as much as I did and to protect them from harm the way I would.

From December 23, 1987 until January 1, 1994 I would have laughed in anyone's face had they even suggested that he was inappropriate with the girls, let alone forcing Erica to have sexual intercourse with him and Ashley to perform oral sex on him. Sure, I thought he flirted a little too much with the pre-teens in the neighborhood and they all thought he was "sexy" and wanted to be his "girlfriend". (Something we fought about on numerous occasions, but heck, nothing to be "alarmed about".)

Even, a few months prior my babysitter asked me flat out if I thought that he was molesting the kids and I swore up and down that there was NO WAY...because I would KNOW...there would be SIGNS...and I was SURE that the girls would tell me...

I spent many years looking back, wondering if I missed something. Randell being overly flirtatious with the pre-teens could have been one, but then again, he could have just been being a "cool dad". Ashley clinging to me before I left for work, begging me not to go could have been one, but then she was three and a half, most children that age go through that. And as sick as this makes me even today to think about it, our sex life didn't even change.

My babysitter is the only one who saw something and that was more with her own children than with mine. In later years we discovered he had also molested one of her children as well.

This leads me to another point you made in your message...you note that I say Randell is "guilty" and that the pages I have on my website are slander.

Webster defines slander as follows: to harm the reputation of by libel.

To take this further...Webster defines libel as follows: a statement or representation published without just cause and tending to expose another to public contempt.

Just cause was proven in a court of law by not only two grand jury indictments, and also by his own admission as shown by the court records including his own hand written confession. Thus, libel/slander is not an issue here.

As for Randell's guilt...

If his confessions aren't enough and if what my children say aren't enough (despite the fact that this wasn't a one time interview and they accepted everything that was said. We were interviewed over and over together and separately by many different individuals over the course of several weeks each time.) Plus the fact that there are at least two other children out there that refused (despite numerous requests) to come forward aren't enough, perhaps these facts will help.

• While children do make up stories, they seldom lie about sexual abuse. Moreover, children who have not been abused do not usually have explicit knowledge of intimate sexual behavior. Statistics indicate that most reports of child sexual abuse are true.
• Most abuse is committed by someone the victim knows and trusts.
• Offenders come from all walks of life and look like ordinary people. They can be fathers, grandfathers, uncles, brothers, stepfathers, mothers, grand mothers, aunts, sisters, stepmothers, babysitters, coaches, teachers, doctors, social workers, religious leaders, neighbors, etc....
• Any form of direct or indirect sexual contact with a young person by an adult, an older child, or a sibling who is more mature, is abusive. Every individual has a unique reaction to sexual abuse regardless of the type, extent or duration of the abuse.
• Physical reactions to sexual stimulation indicate only that one's biological body functions are healthy. Under no circumstances should these types of physical reactions be taken to mean that the child or youth is enjoying the abuse. Sexual assault is a criminal offence regardless of whether or not some of the acts make the child or youth feel good physically. In many cases, a child does not have the emotional tools to understand what is happening.
• Adults are responsible for their own behavior. A child or youth is never responsible for behavior displayed by an adult.
• Many children and youth who have been victims of sexual abuse do heal and go on to lead normal lives like everyone else. In most cases, sexual abuse leaves no visible physical marks on a person, and no one will know that abuse has occurred unless a person is told.
• The sex of the person who commits the abuse does not determine the victim's sexual orientation.
• Offenders use a range of tactics to gain access to their victims. The offender alone is responsible for what he does. Many offenders are experts in manipulating both the victim and the people who care for her.
• Offenders may have normal sex lives with their wives or partners and still abuse young people.
• With or without alcohol or drugs, the offender is responsible for his actions and will need specialized treatment for his offending behavior and for the alcohol and/or drug abuse.
• Many children who are sexually abused do not become child sexual abusers when they grow up.

On to another point that I wish to address in your message: You noted that I was "hurting my children" by posting these things on our family website and that they will realize someday that I have just been a vindictive woman and they will make their own choices.

Let me begin my response by saying that the one thing that Randell was unable to destroy was our family. Despite the extreme difficulties that his abuse caused for all of us, we have been able to remain close and as the girls become older they realize more and more just how NON-vindictive I have been in this situation. I asked the girls their opinions about posting this information on this site and they were unanimous in saying "Go for it Mom." When I asked why they both answered that they hoped it would save someone else from being abused by him like they were. Considering the fact that Erica is almost 21 and Ashley is almost 17, I would say they are both old enough to make these types of decisions. Thus, to spare an innocent child from being abused is why this portion of this site is here.

In regard to everything posted on it such as Randell's name, address, phone number, IDOC #, etc. This information is available elsewhere online, thus considered community access.

As for being vindictive...

Vindictive would have been not giving the girl's the cards they received from Randell's mother. Vindictive would have been not talking to Randell's sister when she contacted me. Vindictive would have been not talking to Randell's half-brother when he contacted me. Vindictive would have been numerous other things that I can think of that while not illegal are extremely satisfying fantasies that I have not done.

So, if you call being vindictive; trying to collect court ordered child support for my children and court ordered restitution for their therapy and court ordered payments on our divorce decree, then I would suggest you check Mr. Webster for the meaning of the word.

On to yet another point I wish to address: Allowing Randell to move on.

This is an interesting point... You see, pedophiles are never cured. This was not a one time deal. This is something that Randell will have to fight against the rest of his life (if he chooses to do so).

But perhaps you were referring to child support. If so, then yes, I can see how having to pay child support would be a weekly reminder of the children he raped. I can see how having less than $100 removed from his paycheck every week might force him to remember the three children he left fatherless because he couldn't keep his hands off two of those children who loved him. I can see how having his wages garnished would be a reminder that he still lies to this day about those 6 years of abuse.

Here's a little FYI...

In Erica's case even after Randell was convicted of abusing Ashley and years of therapy she never admitted until she was an adult that he started abusing her shortly after our marriage. For six years she was told she would be killed if she told. From the age of four to the age of ten she was forced to perform various sex acts on him. If she tried to refuse and ran away he chased her down and forced her. Despite therapy and strong family support she still to this day has nightmares, flashbacks and has been in a number of situations where she was asleep and has lashed out physically and verbally at her very loving and supportive boyfriend who was merely tucking her in because she thought Randell was coming at her again.

In Ashley's case, despite years of therapy, she acted out sexually for several years and then became very introverted. When she did start becoming interested in boys if they tried to hold her hand or put their arm around her she broke up with them. When she finally broke through her self-imposed barrier and started telling people about her abuse she was finally able to start coming to terms with what happened. But along with that and her age came the fact that she finally understood the actual act that Randell forced on her. It is no longer an abstract concept and with that came a lot of anger that she now currently has to deal with.

Randell wants to move on? So do my children. At least Randell "grandfathered" out of all the new laws they have put into affect for pedophiles like him. Once he pays his restitution and once he pays his child support, he can move on.

My children can only continue their journey of healing as they continue to grow, but it will always be with them. Erica will never regain her innocence of childhood and neither will Ashley and neither will the other two little girls who are now young women or the others that are very possibly out there that we may never know about.

So if allowing Randell to move on means allowing him to quit paying child support, then NO, it is the very LEAST he owes my children.

The final point I wish to address in your message: You noted in your message that you have heard Randell's side and know why he admitted to it and you state that I have stated only my side. Then you immediately refer to child support.

I have stated my side because that is the only side I have. I hear over and over how he claims he is "innocent" and plead guilty to "protect the kids" from a court trial. Yet an "innocent" man does not plead guilty or write out a confession like he did. Why would the kids need to be "protected" anyway? They had their own attorney, they had their own child advocate, and they had their own Department of Child and Family Services Casemanager as well as their own therapist and me to protect them.

The real reason he plead guilty (the day of the trial) was that the kids were there, ready to go that day and they were not backing down. He knew that if HE put the kids through a court trial and lost (and he KNEW HE WOULD LOSE), ALL the counts against him would stand and he would get much more time than he got by plea bargaining.

So what exactly, pray tell, is his side?

In regard to your continued references to child support and Randell going back to prison...

I find this very intriguing...

The very fact that you left this message in my guest book is very interesting given the following....

In Mid-May, the kid's child support stops with no notice. I was wondering why the child support that they were receiving so regularly from the end of February to mid-May is no longer coming. Giving the benefit of a doubt, I figure Randell changed jobs and it takes a few weeks to get the new paper work started so I wait. It's now September 26, 2005 and it's been over four months since they have received anything, so I email the Child Support Enforcement Agency who is handling my case and ask them to check into the situation. I also call the 800 number and find out that no garnishment papers have been served on a new employer. I try to talk to a human being but they are all busy and I'm told to call back later.

So in the meantime, I locate the Parole office that handles Randell's case. I ask for his Parole Officer but he is out of the office and they tell me that he probably can't tell me anything regarding his employment anyway because I am his ex-wife. Okay, I understand that. I get the Parole Officer's name and the fax number and fax him a letter explaining that I had just taken Randell to court in February and had received child support until mid-May but nothing further. I asked him to contact the Child Support Enforcement Office that is handling my case and let them know Randell's work status so they can get the paperwork sent out. I also noted the following:

It is my understanding that three of several conditions of his parole per (730 ILCS 5/3-3-7) (from Ch. 38, par. 1003-3-7) Sec. 3-3-7. Conditions of Parole or Mandatory Supervised Release are as follows:
(1) not violate any criminal statute of any jurisdiction during the parole or release term;
(b)(1) work or pursue a course of study or vocational training
(b)(4) support his dependents

You might wish to review the above with Mr. Abernathy and remind him that it is his responsibility to not only pay the court ordered child support, but to also notify new employers of his responsibilities. In addition he also has court ordered therapy bills for his children in addition to the court ordered monies per the divorce agreement. (Copies of all the paper work was served to him on February 15, 2005.)

Currently he is in contempt of all of the above court orders and thus in violation of section (1) of his parole conditions. Because he is also refusing to support his dependents his is also in violation of (b)(4) of his parole conditions. My children can certainly use the money, but if he continues to refuse to pay it, they don’t have any qualms about seeing him returned to prison to serve out the rest of his time.

Thank you for your time and effort in resolving this issue. Please let me know when you have sent the information to the Peoria office so that I may follow up with them.

No response from said Parole officer, but I really didn't expect one.

Back to the Child Support Enforcement Agency. Another email giving them the Parole Officer's name, phone and fax number and requesting that they contact him for information regarding Randell’s work status.

Thursday, September 29, 2005 I received an email from the Child Support Enforcement Agency stating that when they located Randell they would forward the information to the Regional office for further review (form letter). I wrote back giving both Randell's address and the Parole Officer's address, phone and fax.

I finally got through on the Child Support Enforcement Agency 800 number after 40 minutes on hold and am told that they have no record of Randell working. Hmmmmmm....So, I give HER the Parole Officer's name, phone and fax number and told her that he had to talk to someone in an official capacity and hopefully he would talk to her. I then sent a fax to the Parole Officer stating that she would be contacting him for that information.

At 5:30 that evening I receive a phone call from Randell's therapist. He asks me why I haven't received any child support. Huh? But once again, I explain the whole saga about taking him to court in February plus serving him the papers regarding the restitution on the therapy and the divorce. He tells me he will talk to Randell's Parole Officer and call me back Friday.

Then, at 09:58:05 AM on Friday morning, September 30, 2005 you, Paula, leave your message in my guest book...

Now this is either incredible timing or I have managed to get someone's panties in a bunch...

Heck, all I wanted to know is why my kid's weren't receiving their child support!

Please feel free to email me at teasz5 @ gridcom.net if you feel the need to contact me further.

February 15, 2005

On February 15, 2005, an order for Immediate Child Support was granted for Ashley and Samantha.

Randell Lane Abernathy came to this hearing along with a female companion, Who proceeded to glare, stare down and basically try to intimidate Erica and I. Then while Randell and I were up front signing papers, she said things out loud to the people surrounding her (including Erica who was sitting in the row in front her). This woman said things such as "Why does she involve her children. This isn't about them." "Why is she bringing this up now?", etc. My reply had I known what she was saying would have been "Child support is ALWAYS about the children. It's THEIR money." and to the rest I can only assume that amazingly Randell is still maintaining his innocence to those associated with him, even after pleading guilty, serving time and registering as a "Child Sex Offender".

But what is more amazing is that they believe him.

He can't even sit back and say the judge or the jury was "against me" or "I had a bad lawyer".

He signed a confession, written in his own hand.

He admitted not once, but twice, in a court of law that he raped his children.

There are even those that still believe that I made every thing up and coached my children so I could put him in jail to "get child support from him". The fact that I haven't seen one penny from him since I kicked him out on December 14, 1993 is apparently a not a valid point.

What is valid however, is the fact that he is back out in the world and lying to those around him and more than likely grooming his next victims.

While, I am unsure of the relationship that he has with the woman that came to court with him on February 15, 2005, I hope and pray she has no small children. Because despite her own demeanor, no child should ever have to live with they things that Randell Lane Abernathy is capable of.

Despite the odds of her or others like her finding these pages and realizing that they are truly dealing with a child sexual predator. It is my hope and the hopes of my children that if we can keep just one woman, from trusting this incredibly excellent liar and child rapist, thus protecting her children from a lifetime of pain, it will have been worth the effort.